Bishop Macedo answers – My husband is lazy. Should I file for divorce?
Question:
I have a problem. I have been married now for 4 years. I dated my husband very little time and I got pregnant. I love my husband very much, but there’s a problem: he has little education. He is lazy, has no sence of style, has no comprehention of anything. I have to be “his legs” in other words. It’s like I have another child. He’s 4 years younger than me and I try to talk to him but he just doesn’t care about anything. He has no desire to interact with his kid and that drives me crazy! I have to do all the bill paying, I work all day, I go to church (which is the only sanity that I maintain), I have to make all doctor appoints for him, I have to explain everything to him in baby words so that he can understand, I carry all the responsibilities plus cooking, cleaning, laundry, even fixing things around the house! Now I’m ready to move on to opening a store but I don’t want to do this all by myself. I don’t want him to enjoy the luxuries and not work for anyting. He does go to church with me but he doesn’t pray like he should. I asked if he wanted to fast together and he looked at me like I had three heads. He wants to enjoy a good life, but he doesn’t want to work. I feel like the reason why he goes to church is because he gets to go out somewhere.
My problem is that I fear that if this continues I’ll have to file for a divorce. He gets a day off a week and he can’t bring himself to pick things up off the floor. I am physically exhausted and I am very stressed out. I am with the kids 7 days a week and I work 5 days a week. What should I do?
– Anonymous
Answer:
You married a man whom you feel is not compatible to you, now you need to make yourself compatible to him. It’s no use for you to look down on him now. Be a wife and help him as the Lord instructed you to do… be a suitable helper. It’s not your husband’s fault that you’re both so different – stop blaming him or making him feel small, but instead, help him be the husband you wish him to be.