Thirty-two years ago, Cristiane and I were sealing our marriage. We exchanged vows with each other before God. We were fulfilling a dream of our youth, life, and a vision of serving God together. A dream, which after about a year, began to have problems and disagreements. Our spirits didn’t agree. We agreed on many things, but on some things, we had very resistant spirits towards each other.

I was reflecting on how we managed to overcome and how to stay together and well-married. We are better than ever because, as we have been teaching, marriage, according to God’s guidelines, improves over time. The world says: “How can you stand being with the same person for so long? Don’t you get sick? Don’t you get tired?” The answer is no. Naturally, you get tired of something bad, but when it’s good, it gets better over time.

And one thing that helped us overcome that chronic problem in our marriage was that we chose to do the right thing above our own will. We decided to get it right instead of continuing to make mistakes.

The Bible speaks of the “spirit of error”, which is a thought that leads a person to error (knowing or not knowing what is right). And how many marriages end because the person is embedded in their way of existing? They would rather end the marriage than give up their convictions, their way of living.

And if there’s one thing we did, we decided to divorce our mistakes. Because, first, we recognised where we were going wrong. I realised that I wasn’t the great husband I thought I was. How could I be a good husband if my wife wanted to divorce me? So I had to look inside myself and recognise that I was not a good husband. I had to divorce my way.

Professionally, for you to stay performing, you know you have to improve. You change; you adapt to survive. But in marriage, we think we don’t need to change.

When she and I abandoned the “spirit of error”, which caused us to clash with each other, the problems one by one were eliminated, and we finally became one (one flesh, one spirit).

But the “spirit of error” will induce you. It will say, “You deserve it. Everyone does. What’s the problem?” And if you act through it, you will end your life, marriage, and soul. This “spirit of error” comes to take you to the wrong place, which has the absence of God, which is hell.

As a general rule: resist the spirit of error and do what is right above what you feel and like. And then things will work out better for you.

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