The questions Agora Magazine asked us about relationships involved: principles that should be followed, the motives of crisis and how to avoid one, modern threats and how to compromise with balance. Helpful content and tips for those who want to resolve or avoid relationship issues.

Based on your experience as a couple, is it right to say that there are principles to be followed for a relationship to stay healthy?

There are many. The health of a relationship depends on the health of the individuals who are in it. You have to protect your relationship from the unhealthy ideas, such as: finding your soul mate, following your heart, being happy is all that matters, marriage is only a piece of paper – to name but a few. You must shield your relationship against what is unhealthy and build it based on healthy principles: respect, faithfulness, sacrifice, generosity and faith.

Are the motives of crisis usually the same for most couples? Is it easy to avoid them?

Crisis is a result of problems that have not been dealt with. Unfortunately, most couples only get help after a crisis has already started. The marital problems that are not resolved today will become tomorrow’s crisis. We need to invest more in the prevention of problems and in the tools to solve them. Relationship problems are inevitable, but crisis can be avoided if a couple practices intelligent love.

Do you believe there’s such thing as crisis that can’t be solved? When do you think it might be time to give up?

Every crisis can be resolved, but the people involved do not always want to resolve it. If a person decides to give up fighting for the relationship, there’s little more that can be done. The problem is not that there’s no solution to crisis, but that people don’t want to pay the price to find a solution. This is usually a mistake, because people move on to other relationships without learning to resolve the crisis and are totally unprepared to deal with the future ones.

Do you believe the modern days brought us new relationship issues related to exaggerated use of social networks and smartphones? How can we deal with these issues?

No doubts about it: New threats to a long-lasting relationship are emerging all the time. A couple must be in touch with what’s going on around them and can possibly hurt their relationship. Learning to use new technology while setting up rules and boundaries to this usage is essential. Never compromise transparency for the sake of “privacy”. There’s no such thing as privacy in marriage, since there can’t be trust without transparency.

People are different and this difference in opinions and values become more and more evident as people live together day by day. Do you believe one should always concede?

Conceding is the oxygen of a relationship, but both need to breathe. When a couple is able to compromise with balance, it doesn’t feel like compromising. It feels as natural as breathing while reading this article. Therefore, it’s not something painful. It’s only painful when it’s always the same one doing it. Note, however, that this is usually a habit developed from the beginning of the relationship. If you’re the one who’s always conceding from the start, you get your partner used to disregarding what you say. Do not allow that to happen.

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