07/01/2015

Weak love vs. Strong love – which one is yours?

I do not know if you have ever fainted or felt that your physical strength had left you. I have. Those were not good experiences. You get physically weak, lose your visual perception, and fall to the ground… it feels like you are going to die. Why? Because you are void of any strength.

As the physical energy and muscles are for the body, so is the strength for love. Strength sustains love, because love does not live by good moments alone. For love to prevail, it must be strong enough to withstand the bad moments. If it is not strong, it will not stand. Love needs strength so it can stand.

This is the true love, not the cheap imitations lurking around. Fake love has no strength, it does not stand in the time of crisis. It gives up or runs towards someone else’s arms, it becomes desperate.

Many people have had a weak love and that is why they can neither overcome the problems within the relationship nor protect themselves from the external ones.

A husband recently told us about how he started cheating on his wife after he failed in business. He was not strong enough to withstand the emotional issues brought by his financial failure. Due to this weakness, seeking self-affirmation, he gave in to an affair with another woman, who also got pregnant for him… His wife, in turn, almost died of extreme hate and grief when she found out what happened. She carried a mortal grudge for almost three years — until she gathered strength to forgive him and together, they rebuilt their marriage.

Love does not live by good days alone. Some days, you will look at your spouse and feel like singing a love song and reciting poetry to him or her. Other days, you will feel like crying, grabbing a hold of the first thing that you see in front of you and toss it at him (her) — and ask for divorce … There is no such thing as love that only stands during good days.

That is why love must be strong, for the bad days; so that in times like these you do not end up saying everything that comes to your head, but do the right thing instead of panicking or getting depressed.

The good news is that strength is something that can be built. Just as your body can get stronger and healthier with a proper diet and workout, your love can get stronger also.

This will be our goal for this month of January in the Love Therapy: to help couples and singles build strength in love. We will start on January 10th. Come to this gym!